Separated & Divorced Dads
You’re still their dad — even on the nights they’re not here.
The relationship didn’t end. It changed shape. Now you’re parenting across two homes, learning to co-parent with someone who used to be on your team, and trying to stay close to your kids through a schedule you didn’t choose.
Everyone talks about the divorce. Nobody talks about the dad.
This is where support for separated and divorced dads usually starts: the paperwork gets sorted, the lawyers move on, and you’re left in a quieter apartment, counting the days until your next night with them — wondering if you’re slowly becoming the “every-other-weekend dad” your kids don’t really know.
Maybe the split was your call. Maybe it wasn’t. Either way, you’re grieving a family you thought you’d have, while trying to stay steady for the kids who are watching exactly how you handle it.
That grief is real. It doesn’t make you weak, and it doesn’t make you a worse father. It makes you a father in transition — and that’s something you can actually get support for.
You’re not the only dad doing this.
It looks different for every father. But if you’re one of the many separated and divorced dads figuring this out, the pull in these directions is common.
- Every handoff stings, and you’re scared the reduced time is slowly turning you into a stranger your kids visit instead of a father they know
- Co-parenting with your ex feels like negotiating with someone who used to be your teammate
- The divorce is “done” on paper, but you’ve never actually dealt with what it did to you
- Anger or resentment shows up faster than it used to, and you don’t want your kids to catch it
- A new relationship is forming, and you’re not sure how to blend it with your kids
- You’re running two households now, and nobody’s really asked how you’re holding up
How it works.
Reach out
Send me a brief email — just mention whether you’re looking for in-person or virtual sessions.
We talk
A short phone chat — you tell me a bit about your situation, ask anything you’d like about how I work. Confidential, no charge.
We begin
If it feels like the right fit, we schedule your first session and get to work.
How we work together
Support for separated and divorced dads, built around your life now.
Individual therapy for the transition. Grief, anger, guilt, identity, and the particular loneliness of the off-nights — with someone whose whole focus is you.
Staying close across two homes. Protecting the relationship with your kids when you don’t control the calendar, and being the steady one they can count on in both houses.
Co-parenting that doesn’t cost you. Communication, boundaries, and handling handoffs, new partners, and old wounds — without putting the kids in the middle.
When a new family is forming. If a new relationship is entering the picture — or you’re becoming a stepdad yourself — and you’re working out where you fit.
The practical details.
Location
In-person sessions in Midtown Toronto, near Eglinton & Avenue Rd. Virtual sessions available Ontario-wide via secure video.
Sessions
50 minutes, typically weekly. Frequency can shift as the work evolves — some men move to bi-weekly once things have settled.
Fees
Fees are discussed during the initial consult. Many extended health benefit plans cover registered social worker and psychotherapy — worth checking before we meet.
You’ve been carrying this quietly long enough.
A free 10-minute consult is where we start. No pressure. Just a real conversation about where you are, and what might actually help.